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God doesn't even spank me if I choose disobedience as an adult. What other items do customers buy after viewing this item? Alexa Actionable Analytics for the Web. When the child has calmed down, and thought things through, they can tell the parent they are ready to leave time-out and cooperate. Enabled Word Wise: He does not provide a convincing argument or biblical basis for the need for physical punishment. Read more Read less.
Tedd Tripp not only draws on his thirty years experience as a pastor, counselor, school administrator, and father, but he also shares insights gained in many years of teaching this material in conferences worldwide, providing more valuable help for parents.
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He knows children, he knows parents…and he knows the ways of God. This book teaches you what your goals should be and how to pursue these ends practically.
It teaches you how to talk to your children and what to talk about. It will inspire you to become a different kind of parent. This is a masterful book. With the plethora of material on parenting and the family, it is surprising—and distressing—to see how few books are genuinely biblical.
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It teaches you how to talk to your children and what to talk about. It will inspire you to become a different kind of parent. This is a masterful book. Earnest fathers and mothers will find it also eminently "do-able.
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Please try again later. Paperback Verified Purchase. I love this book. It has really changed and added to my parenting. I will share that I don't think this book is for those parents who don't actually want to teach or train they're children. I mean, this book really calls you the parent to examine your own thinking and change.
If you are not ready for that, don't buy it. I am a firm believer that God is the leader. I bought this book because I couldn't understand my two year old. He was always throwing tantrums and freaking out about everything. He was also very mean and unkind to his sister.
Ok so he's two right? I was already seeing his character come out and it was not something I was prepared to deal with. A lot of my friends recommended this book.
So I bought it. It changed my way of thinking and handling my son. Within in days I saw a difference in him and even the people around me started to notice he was so much more happier. It even helped me realize that my daughter who is a "good kid" naturally, needed to be called higher.
She always obeys and does what shes told. But because of that we overlooked a lot of heart issues with her. He constantly mentions spanking throughout the book and misquotes scripture saying that parents have to spank their kids or they would be disobeying God.
Nowhere in the bible have I ever read that and he has taken bible passages way out of context. I read this expecting biblical, scripturally sound parenting advice but was very disappointed.
Please read the bible passages he quotes for yourselves as he grossly misinteprets them to justify his own views as "mandated" by God. This is an inspiring metaphor for parenting, which is likely to draw parents or prospective parents into the text.
Tripp believes that when children misbehave, they are rebelling against God. There is a circle of protection, and when children are obeying their parents they are in a right relationship with God and are promised rewards of blessing and long life while in the circle. Outside of the circle, a child is at risk of spiritual and physical death. In fact, the scriptures that Tedd uses to defend hitting children are primarily from Proverbs, which is a book of highly figurative wisdom literature written for teenagers and young adults.
We also know the audience is for this age group, because a majority of Proverbs revolves around subject matter, like sexual immorality, that would only apply to that age group. Tedd describes beginning to hit children as young as 8 months old ; he says as soon as they are old enough to resist you they are old enough to be hit he even defines a child struggling during a diaper change as disobedience The problem with this is that the Hebrew terms for the age groups that Tedd encourages hitting are: However, the rod that Tripp worships for its ability to change hearts and bring salvation, is most likely not literal.
In all these instances it symbolizes guidance and authority. The shepherd did not beat the sheep with the staff, otherwise the frightened sheep would run away and would not follow the shepherd.
If one follows this interpretation of the Hebrew text, then the Proverbs rod verses that Tripp mentions can be interpreted in the following ways: Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell Sheol Proverbs The sun can beat down on the earth, and in that context it means that the sun is a constant presence.
Beat can mean a constant presence, or something repetitive. Being beat with authority could mean that the use of authority to teach your children should be a constant presence, and that such lessons should be repeated as much as needed when failures occur. I have a friend Samuel Martin who is a biblical scholar who lives in Israel, and he posted pictures of a shebet in one of his blogs, and it is not just a stick, it is a thick staff of wood.
If this verse were literal, it would also be a lie, because it makes the argument that beating a child with a rod could save them from death and hell, but that is not true. If the rod is the Word Of God, then that could definitely save person from death. Discipline your son and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul Proverbs Tedd quotes Hebrews Discipline is naturally painful, but it is an internal pain.
It is the pain of not having your every selfish whim fulfilled. It is the pain of experiencing natural consequences of poor decisions. It could even be the growing pains of maturity. He states that this method only encourages children to behave when their parents are around to notice the behavior.
First of all, Tedd is a bit heavy handed when it comes to this idolatry argument. Secondly, the simple solution to this dilemma is to randomize the rewards system so that a child can never expect when they will receive a reward. Wherever you were, there were always teachers and administrators watching who could potentially report your positive behavior. Eventually, a child learns to see the inherent goodness and value of being good, whether they receive a physical reward or not.
Rewards are also beneficial for encouraging students who have difficulty with a specific task and need training to develop the resolve to work through such difficulties. I am trained in a program that helps dyslexic students learn the skills they need to read more fluently, and these students can easily become frustrated.
However, knowing they will receive candy from the learning games we play, and sometimes prizes, helps keep them motivated until they develop an intrinsic satisfaction from the task. When the student gets to this point, they do not need the prizes any longer, and they usually do not ask for them. Also, Tedd states that obedience puts children in a circle of protection where they are promised blessings and long life; is this not an appeal to rewards to encourage obedience?
Tedd is also against what he calls emotionalism. To explain emotionalism, he describes an event he witnessed in an airport where a young girl was behaving badly. I hate you. Go away. Find someone else to yell at. Get out of my sight 58! While I agree that this example is destructive, because you should never withhold love as a form of correction, I think Tedd is wrong when he concludes that there are no instances of emotionalism that can be effective when training the heart.
Emotionalism can teach empathy and compassion. A child can learn that the way we interact with people can affect their emotions.
I remember a time in preschool where I was angry about something and I stamped my feet and told my mom I hated her. My mother responded by telling me I hurt her feelings, and when her words sunk into my conscience, I cried and apologized. Another time I became upset about something and I took a picture I had made for my mom off the refrigerator and ripped it to pieces.
When my mom saw the ripped up picture and approached me about it, I could tell she was sad, and this motivated me to grab paper and crayons to create a new picture. I was learning that my actions could either hurt or help people. Tedd also decries time-out and describes an example that bares more of a resemblance to shunning than time-out: As long as the child is being punished in the chair, no one in the family may speak to her or have any contact with her.
It is cruel not to respond to someone and pretend they are not there, and I cannot recall a time where I was in distress during time-out and my mother did not respond to me. I also remember an alternative to time-out that was much more effective; it was a conditional time-out where the child is only in time-out as long as he or she refuses to cooperate and obey.
When the child has calmed down, and thought things through, they can tell the parent they are ready to leave time-out and cooperate.
When the child is ready to leave time-out, a restorative process can occur where the parent can have a conversation with the child about the issues behind the misbehavior and talk about a plan to avoid the misbehavior.
The parent can also help the child make amends. Tripp also condemns taking possessions away from a child as a means of punishment that does not address the heart, but what if what is being taken away is a natural consequence of the offense? A frustrated child throws his toys, so the parent puts them away because he is not using them correctly; a child uses her markers to color on the walls, so the markers are put away for a while and mother gives her daughter a rag with some soap and water and helps her with cleaning the markings off the wall; a teenager uses the computer to access inappropriate web sites, so his access is restricted until he can learn to use the internet safely and his parents can trust him again.
Once again, I agree that if this is all the parent does when their child is grounded, then it is rather purposeless. However, I question whether this is always the way grounding works? I do not recall any of the times I was grounded as spending the entire time in my room without having interactions with, or conversations with my mother.
During the time where I would usually be allowed to watch television, my mother could have me read some stories about characters who needed to tell the truth in difficult situations along with a conversation about the subject matter, maybe she could have me write about why the truth is important, or write a plan for how to work through the fear and anxiety of telling the truth in difficult circumstances. With all the infinitely creative ways to correct misbehavior and address issues of the heart, it is dumbfounding to think that Ted thinks the only option is whacking a child with a piece of wood while telling them you love them, and that your only doing it that way because an uncreative God wants you to only do it that way.
Speaking of God, how did God respond when Jonah ran away and refused to go to Nineveh; a three day time-out in the belly of a fish until Jonah realized he was wrong and decided to obey. When the prodigal son returned to his father after wasting all of the money that was supposed to be his inheritance, did the corporal punishment occur before the father killed the fatted calf and prepared a feast, or was it administered after the feast? When Adam and Eve sinned, the privilege of living in the Garden of Eden was taken from them, but they were spared immediate death, they were clothed, and they were told that a way was going to be made for them to one day return to the garden temporary loss of a privilege.
After Peter denied Jesus three times, Jesus returns and asks Peter three times if Peter loves him and to feed his sheep, a blatant appeal to emotionalism.